Let Go and Give Others Room to Grow

Let Go and Give Others Room to Grow, an article written by Guy Finley

Room to grow article image 3There is one essential ingredient missing in most of our relationships. One that is definitely required, if we wish to continue in our own development and help others to do the same.

What is this powerful catalyst that only we can provide for each other?

Room in which to grow.

We can help others reach higher by simply agreeing, consciously, to give them space to go through their changes. Even when these changes may challenge our sense of self and its well-being.

As just one simple example, of how to help in this way, we must each learn to keep ourselves quiet when the actions of someone close to us start to disturb us.

Why is this new kind of self-silence so important for the growth of both parties involved?

To begin with, the disturbance that we feel in these moments is caused by a tremor in us. This is to say, that our shaky sense of self is an effect of some picture we have held of this person as it hits the ground and shatters.

Apart from our children, whom we must guide through their developing years, we need to learn to leave people alone with their decisions and corresponding actions.

There is already a truth, a wisdom that supports this conscious course of action.

We already understand that no action of ours ever goes without its commensurate reward. This eternal principle is best known as karma, the great, inescapable law of cause and effect.

Room to grow article image 2This means it is our own nature, as the backstage parent of what prods us along in life, that determines what we experience as our life.

So too is it with our family and friends… each receives what he or she is, no more, no less.

This truth tells us why we must not only give them room to make the choices that they will, but then leave them alone, to realize and experience the unique results of being who they are. How else can they learn and grow beyond themselves?

Understanding these truths mandates that we back off from being secretly on everyone’s back, that we give them the inner room they need to grow and discover themselves.

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The difficulty here is that in order to give others this space they need, we must first make room within ourselves.

Room to grow article image 4To state this same idea differently, we must remove ourselves from our habitual inner places of judgments, opinions, and knowing better than anyone else. We have always called this place, that must be left behind, our “self”.

This conscious sacrifice of self, of who we conceive ourselves to be for the sake of who our friend or loved one is yet to be, gives new meaning to the beautiful ideal of “laying our life down for our brother”.

This is how we help others to help themselves go higher… by daring to grow beyond ourselves.

[Excerpted from “Seeker’s Guide to Self-Freedom” by Guy Finley]

Author:Guy Finley article image - 4 Ways to Teach the Truths that Transform the WorldGuy Finley is the best-selling author of The Secret of Letting Go, The Essential Laws of Fearless Living, and more than 40 books and audio albums on self-realization, including his brand new book The Secret of Your Immortal Self. Guy is the founder and director of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit center for self-study located in southern Oregon where he gives talks four times each week. Guy is a faculty member at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, New York and is a regular expert contributor to Beliefnet and the Huffington Post. Visit the Life of Learning Foundation site and sign up for free, to receive Guy’s 6-hour eCourse The Illusion of Limitation on 7 MP3 downloads.